Sunday, September 30, 2007

The Last Ounce of Devotion

I never meant to suggest that Paul Potts was on a par with Pavorotti as a tenor. It’s just that the aria which catapulted Paul to fame and fortune is the one that Pavorotti made popular to the “non-opera philes” of the world. (Here is Pavorotti’s rendition: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ONUCPKdGcrk) I saw a quote recently attributed to Pavorotti. It goes something like this: “People think that I am discliplined. They are mistaken -  I am dedicated. There is a great difference.” Devotion vs. Discipline. Living an inspired life vs. being driven by “personal demons”. Exuberance vs. Vengeance. Day and night, no?

“ All Things With Exuberance!”

mary!

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Goldie B. Wolfe Miller

 

I was at a luncheon the other day where Goldie B. Wolfe Miller was the speaker. (http://womenleadersinrealestate.com/speak.htm) In fact, I was honored to be seated at the head table with her family. I am so inspired by this woman! She started in commercial real estate - office leasing - at Rubloff in 1972. Rubloff is a venerable Chicago firm that has been around since the 1930’s.  (http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Rubloff_Company). The company was founded by a feisty and brilliant fellow that I had the privilege of sitting next to early in my career at a board banquet one night: Arthur Rubloff. I can’t help but wonder what Mr. Rubloff would think about the direction his eponymous company has taken these past 10-15 years. It is not the company it was under his leadership! In the early 90’s, the Rubloff company, under it’s new owners, decided to spin off its commercial division and focus only on residential brokerage. In the break-up and shake-up after Arthur’s death, Goldie departed forming her own eponymous company - which under her leadership went on to become the largest woman-owned commercial real estate company. I wouldn’t be surprised if Rubloff’s decision to spin-off it’s commercial division had a great deal to do with Goldie’s success. They found her a tough competitor to beat. She sold that company in 1998 and is now consulting and developing as President of Millbrook Corporate Real Estate Services.

Some of Mr. Rubloff’s feistiness must have rubbed off on Goldie during her formative years as a real estate agent. In her speech this past Thursday, she said that she is often asked how she was able to balance her career with being a single mom. She said there is no such thing as balance. She said that there may be many defiinitions of success, but she always defined it in terms of money. That if you wanted to be successful, you couldn’t have the luxury of balance. One attendee during the Q&A asked how one can assure being lucky. Goldie’s response was by working harder than anyone else. And though she sounds like - and is! - a “hard cobb” -  make no mistake, she is a character and a half!  - what has made her the success that she is - and an inspiration to the standing room only crowd in attendance - is her genuine interest in and concern for the person she is talking to. For that brief moment when you have her attention, you have her full attention. She makes you feel as if there is nobody else in the room that is more important to her. It’s a rare gift and comes from a generous heart.

It is amazing what this woman with singleness of purpose, dedication and drive has been able to accomplish. Her energy is infectious. It is a tribute to her warm and generous spirit that in an industry notorious for envious back-stabbing and vicious mud-slinging, that this woman is held in high regard by any who come into contact with her. One cannot help but be enlivened and inspired by her. I sure as heck wouldn’t want to be competing against her in a business deal!

“All Things With Exuberance!”

mary!

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Saturday, September 15, 2007

School Daze

My mother gave me an article out of the newspaper the other day. The article described a woman with four kids who, because of her blog, is now being touted as the next Erma Bombeck. (www.mom2my6pack.blogspot.com/ )  She is receiving book offers, movie deals, even agent solicitations. Mom is one of my raving fans. (And I do not add, “of course”. I no longer take for granted that all mothers are raving fans of their children. Over the years, I’ve learned that one of the happiest occurrences of my life has been my soul’s selection of parents - if one holds to such notions as being possible.) So, she gave me the article in the spirit of, “Well, if she can do it - why not you?” Why not indeed? And there is the secret little ambition that we all hold - our “15 minutes of fame”; to be acknowledged by the world as scintillating, funny, clever, unique - and, in short, utterly remarkable. As if we aren’t all unique to begin with and as if the world’s validation of such things really makes it so.

Which brings to mind my latest visit to the witch doctor. Dr. Matt has initials following his name that identify him as a trained and certified chiropractor, but as many chiropractors do these days, he practices alternative healing methods - much of it based on Eastern medicine. In other words, he’s my witch doctor. (BTW- Everyone needs one.) I started seeing him in the Spring when I couldn’t get off the floor one morning because of a bad back. In no time at all, he had me up and going again. I’ve learned from Dr. Matt that many of our ailments are a result of unconscious memories or traumas that we store in our bodies - they may be physical or emotional traumas. In my case - as I am sure is true with most people - many of the “traumas” are emotional.

This last visit, the issue that came up dealt with an eighth grade incident of being hazed by one of my classmates - an experience I hadn’t given any conscious thought to in something like 40 years! As Dr. Matt was trying to solicit from me the memory that was “locking me up”, I replied, “Are you kidding? I was 14 years old! The whole school hated me!” He replied, “You just think that because you’re a girl.” Oh, right, Mr. Captain of Your High School Football Team. He probably had to (and no doubt still does!) beat the girls off with a stick!

The incident involved this particular girl (whose name I don’t recall) making fun of me because - wait for it! - I was having a good time and clowning around. Looking back with adult eyes, I now understand that she must have been desperately unhappy for whatever reason - who knows what was going on in her home? She probably wasn’t as lucky as I was in her soul’s selection of parents. And here I was: 5′11″ gawky, weird, a little too bright for my own good, with none of the 14 year old’s emblems of success. What right did I have being happy? (I guess even then I did all things with exuberance!) And she just couldn’t stand it anymore. So, she decided to take me down a peg.

And what happens to those rarified few that were hugely popular in high school - the ones that the rest of us aspired, in our heart of hearts, to be like? The ones voted “most likely to succeed?” I can’t help but wonder if they, like the rest of us, suffer the same existential angst that we all share - assuming, of course, that they even ponder such things - which I concede is a pretty big assumption. 

On the one hand, we want to be considered unique; we want to stand out from the crowd. On the other hand, if we do not conform to what is considered “normal”, we are painfully ostracized by our peers. All I can say is, “Be careful what you wish for, you just might get it.”

“All Things With Exuberance!”

mary!

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Saturday, September 8, 2007

The Path With A Heart

I saw the movie “The Peaceful Warrior” the other night. A friend recommended it to me. I had started to read the book, “The Way of the Peaceful Warrior” a long time ago but somehow just wasn’t able to get into it. I didn’t go out of my way to look for the movie, but it kind of popped out at me at Blockbuster. Upon seeing it, I remembered my friend recommending it. I watched it more out of curiousity than anything. I didn’t have high expectations. After all, I had already seen “What the Bleep” and “The Secret”  - so what would this offer that those didn’t already give me? But I was dead wrong! It is very different from those movies and the story is quite compelling.

Several aphorisms are demonstrated throughout the story. The one that struck me the most is that it’s the journey that makes us happy - not the destination. How often do we struggle and work to reach a particular goal telling ourselves that if we can just accomplish it - maybe it’s to reach an ideal weight or a fantastic level of income - THEN will we be happy. Only to find disappointment once the goal is accomplished. Nothing has really changed: we’re still who we were before we began the process. Oh, we may be a little thinner or a little richer (you can never have too much of either), but we’re still the same person inside that we have always been.

I think the reason it was so cogent a lesson for me is because of the experience I have had the past 2 years of deciding to close - and then actually closing - my real estate office; picking up the pieces of my shattered ego and trying to discern with wisdom the way forward. I have spent many a restless night wondering where do I go from here? Did I do the right thing? Do I go back to “just” being an agent? And what this movie made me realize is that, as Carlos Casteneda’s mentor Don Juan told him, the only path that serves is the path with a heart. Having my own office was not a path with a heart - not for me. The journey did not make me happy. Where the path led made no difference because the journey itself was not happy.

I’ve recently cleaned up the last of the debacles associated with closing the business. The path behind is finally a closed book and I can now devote my full attention to the path ahead. What has always been true for me is the fun of “doing the deals”. It’s like playing Monopoly on a grand scale. And every single transaction is different. For me, selling real estate, “just” being an agent, is my path with a heart.

“All Things With Exuberance!”

mary!

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Thursday, September 6, 2007

Diamonds in the Rough

Upon news of the death of Pavarotti, I was reminded of something I saw recently at an event I attended. There is a show in England that is comparable to “American Idol”. This “little lump of coal” of a tenor from Wales by the name of Paul Potts was discovered. He had been working as a cell phone salesman when he got onto the show. As a result of the show, he was signed to a recording contract and is now on tour performing throughout Asia! And all of this happened in a matter of about 60 -90 days! Who said miracles don’t happen? Like the juggler, Chris Bliss, his performance is absolutely compelling in that he is totally connected to his music and totally centered in the moment.

I love the look on the faces of the judges when he first steps up to sing. You can tell that they’re grimacing, “How bad will this be?” He completely captivates both judges and audience with the power of his performance. It’s truly a magical moment. The woman judge totally loses it!  

The story of this ”little lump of coal” holding onto his dream is the stuff fairy tales are made of.  How nice to know that fairy tales can come true - and if they can come true for Paul, then why not for us?

“All Things With Exuberance!” 

mary!

Here is the u-tube video: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1k08yxu57NA

Here is the Wikipedia entry about him:

Paul Potts

From Wikipedia, the free encyclopedia

Paul Potts (born 1970 in Bristol, England), from Port Talbot in South Wales, is a singer who became the winner of the first series of ITV’s Britain’s Got Talent, singing operatic arias and impressing the judges in all of his performances. At the time of his victory on Britain’s Got Talent, he had been working in The Carphone Warehouse, but following his win he has been signed by the show’s judge Simon Cowell to record an album. Potts has previously worked in unpaid opera productions from 1999 to 2003, however, a series of illnesses combined with a bicycle accident in 2003 brought an end to his amateur opera career.[2]

Biography

Potts was raised in Fishponds, Bristol, by his father Roland, a bus driver, and mother, Yvonne, a supermarket cashier.[3] He has two brothers and one sister, and attended St. Mary Redcliffe school where he first developed his love of singing.[4]

In the interview that was broadcast before his performance in the semi-final, Paul stated that he had trouble with being bullied in school, and that it may have had an influence on his (lack of) self-confidence.

Until June 19, 2007 Potts worked as a manager at the Bridgend Carphone Warehouse, a mobile phone store around 8 miles from his home town. He was a Liberal Democrat councillor in Bristol from 1996 to 2003. [5] [6]

Previous work and experience

Potts is said to have first sung Opera in 1999 in a karaoke competition, dressed as Pavarotti, although he had said during the show that his voice had always been a source of solace in the past when bullied, so he would have sung from a younger age.[7] That same year he appeared in the Michael Barrymore talent show My Kind of Music. Although he did not win the competition, he won £8,000, which helped to pay for singing lessons in Italy. During his singing course he was selected as one of the best students, to sing in front of Luciano Pavarotti and Katia Ricciarelli, who were apparently impressed with his singing.

For the Bath, Somerset, based amateur company ‘Bath Opera’, he has performed on four occasions in the roles of Don Basilio (Marriage of Figaro), Don Ottavio (Don Giovanni), the title role in Verdi’s Don Carlos, and as the Prince of Persia and also the Herald in Turandot.[8][9][7] He also sang for the Royal Philharmonic in front of an audience of 15,000 and toured Northern Italy as a soloist.[8]

Potts broke his collarbone in a bicycle accident in 2003, which prevented him from pursuing opera as a career. He says that this, as well as financial difficulties, led to him to enter the talent show, which he won and received the opportunity to perform in front of the Queen at the Royal Variety Performance 2007.

Britain’s Got Talent

On June 9, 2007, Potts’ audition of Simon Cowell’s new search-for-a-star show Britain’s Got Talent was televised on ITV in UK. The actual audition was held at the Wales Millennium Centre in Cardiff on March 17, 2007[10]. Paul sang a condensed version of Giacomo Puccini’s “Nessun dorma“, which impressed the judges and received a standing ovation from the audience of 2,000 people. Potts’ rendition of this has currently been viewed on video upload site YouTube tens of millions of times and exists among Youtube’s all-time most viewed videos.

In the semi-final on June 14, 2007, Potts performed main verses of “Con te partirò” with praise from the audience and judges. He progressed to the final after receiving the highest public vote in that show.[11] He performed a full-length “Nessun dorma” for his final on June 17, 2007 as well as an encore after he won the competition. Potts defeated co-favourite with the bookmakers, Connie Talbot and received the highest public vote out of 2 million votes cast to win Britain’s Got Talent, winning the chance to perform at Royal Variety Performance in front of the Queen.

In the United States, he was profiled on a National Public Radio programme called “Day to Day” on June 15, 2007. NPR is a non-commercial network that reaches several million people every day in the U.S. On June 18, 2007, a commercial US Television network, NBC, highlighted Potts’s victory on its broadcast network’s NBC Nightly News and on its Cable news outlet MSNBC. Then on June 21, 2007 he appeared live on NBC’s programme Today.

During the programme there was some controversy[12]as to the ‘undiscovered’ nature of Potts’ talent, who was portrayed on the show as simply a mobile phone salesman, whereas he had in fact appeared in four amateur opera productions and in a concert for the Royal Philharmonic Orchestra[8] and had plans for a summer tour with the Orchestra.[8] Potts responded to his critics saying that he had not claimed to be completely untutored, but had never performed any concert for pay, and was therefore amateur, and that the lessons he had received in Italy he had paid for from his own savings.[2]

On July 8, 2007, Potts performed at a Katherine Jenkins‘ concert at Margam Park, “Katherine In The Park”. Jenkins extended an invitation for him to sing his rendition of “Nessun Dorma” at the concert.[13] On July 16, 2007, his debut album “One Chance” was released in UK, and on July 22, 2007, the album claimed the number one spot of BBC’s Top 40 Album chart for three consecutive weeks.

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